Quotes Indifference Because Some People Do Not Deserve Your Emotions 11:04 PM Indifference.in·dif·fer·ence/inˈdif(É™)rÉ™ns/noun: lack of interest, concern, or sympathy. Some people do not deserve your emotions. Some people are not worth your time and feelings. There are those you can refer to as vampires because being around them suck the life out of you: Toxic people. Users. Naysayers. Emotionally immature. It is not your obligation to adjust to them. Don't burden yourself. Life's too short to surround yourself with those who do not appreciate you, respect you or value you. You're not put on earth to suffer for others. You can only help them up to a point. They get to decide if they're going to help themselves or not. Don't waste your energy and your time on those who do not contribute to your well-being. Sometimes it's better to show indifference. Because some people do not deserve your emotions. Want more quotes? Follow About Life and Love on Instagram
Life Lessons Things To Leave In 2013 5:39 PM You can't cling to the past, because no matter how tightly you hold on, it's already gone. -How I Met Your Mother I got inspired to write my own list of things to leave in 2013, when I saw Mandy Hale's post. I love her! Things To Leave in 2013 Fake friends Yes, there are people whom you can say are really good to you, they were there when you needed them the most and when you've got nothing, and friends you can share good times with. Unfortunately, somewhere along the way, they started to distance themselves from you and your woman instinct kicks in and tells you something's wrong. You know because the conversation started to become casual and the topics limited (they keep you in the dark), the warm welcome turned cold and you hear them whisper and exchange knowing looks when they thought you're not aware. Needless to say, to continue the friendship is like trying to wear the clothes you've outgrown. No matter how much you like it, it just doesn't fit anymore. It's time to leave. So leave, you must. Toxic and petty people You don't have to hang out with the wrong crowd. Jesus may have succeeded in converting what the society considered as outcasts but let's face it. In real life, more often than not, the more you try to fix people, the more they destroy you. I've noticed that the more I try to reach out to difficult people, try to understand them and make their lives better, the more disappointed and exhausted I become. Bo Sanchez said you may love difficult people from a distance, but you don't have to spend time with them. They will just suck your energy out and leave you drained. Bitterness Bitterness leaves you feeling bad about yourself, makes you overlook the blessings around you and makes you wish ill towards another. There's no sense in feeling bitter about the past because it's over. And as appealing as plotting your vindication is, only God can really give you back what you've lost. Unforgiveness Life is too short to spend hating. Unforgiveness is like drinking poison while waiting for the other person to die". It will harm your body and spirit and will steal your joy. Worry Worrying over baseless things. Worry is another huge "joy-stealer". Instead of worrying, spend your time and energy wishing (and planning). Even the Bible keeps on reminding us that we need not worry. We just need to trust. Unproductive hobbies Habits and activities that do not nourish. It takes 28 days to form a habit. So you need to be patient with yourself. You have to take it one day at a time. Start getting a healthy sleeping pattern, stop munching on unhealthy food, stop engaging in gossips. These are just a few unnecessary habits that we must not bring with us in the next year. Easier said than done, but not impossible to do. Could-have-been It's never too late to be who you might have been. Yes, there are words better left unspoken. There are things we wished we could have done better. But, if it's over, let it go. The best way to avoid regrets is to start acting now and be what you've always wished to be or do what you've always wanted to do. Every new day is an opportunity to start over. Fears and what if's The only person stopping you is yourself. Do it afraid. Unnecessary spending. Do something today that your future self will thank you for---save and invest. Your past Obviously. Leave 2013 to 2013 and welcome 2014 with open arms. What are you leaving in 2013? Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Lux Thinking Aloud My 2013 In A Nutshell 3:31 PM My 2013 in a nutshell: My 2013 has been a year full of twists, wonderful surprises and rediscoveries. My 2013 has been a year of meeting a lot of new people, reconnecting with old friends and reluctantly leaving a few behind. My 2013 has been a year of finding courage to leave what's not nourishing me, what's not making me happy anymore and what's holding me back. My 2013 has been a year of acceptance; I've stopped chasing things and people not worth my time and effort. My 2013 has been a year of boldness, of speaking up and not putting up with other people's sh*t. My 2013 has been a year of healing, emerging not as a perfect person but definitely an improved version of myself. My 2013 has been a year of humility; learning continuously and accepting the fact that I'm no better than anyone else. My 2013 has been a year of service and a little sacrifice that came with it. My 2013 has been a year of taking my health seriously (working out and being picky with what I eat), spending more wisely, trying out new things and going to places I've never been to before. My 2013 has been a year that made me feel more human and I daresay, more complete. My 2013 is the year I found, liked and fell in love with myself all over again. And, I declare that my 2014 can only be better. Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Rants Just So You Know 12:57 PM When a woman is quiet it’s not because she doesn't know what to answer and you’re winning. She’s contemplating whether she should say what she thinks or if she’ll just let you think you're really smart and awesome you've left her dumbfounded. Just So You Know When you're still single at the age when "normal" people marry or start a family of their own, people look at you like you're a freak. Sometimes it’s amusing to see the looks on their faces, sometimes it’s flattering when they're surprised to know your age, sometimes it’s downright irritating. Especially when you hear comments from small minded individuals. People who think something’s wrong with you and not for a second think that there must have been a good reason why you chose to stay single instead of panicking like it’s the end of the world and you're doomed because no one’s “put a ring on it” yet. Honestly, I don't know if I'd ever get used to people who were born with a life mission of criticizing every single detail in your life like they're paid to do it. I’m torn between wanting to be a good Christian and unleashing that clawed bitch in me. As always, the good side wins. So I just bite my tongue and force a smile every time. And try with all the strength I could muster to NOT NOT speak my mind when addressing their comments. It’s like there’s this voice inside me saying, “Easy there, tiger. He’s not worth the energy”. So I back away and another poor person’s life has been spared from humiliation and utter harsh verbal combat from moi. When a woman is quiet it’s not because she doesn't know what to answer and you’re winning. She’s contemplating whether she should say what she thinks or if she’ll just let you think you're really smart and awesome you've left her dumbfounded. Just so you know. See also: Ramblings Of An Old Woman
Lux Thinking Aloud My Virtual Friend 9:28 AM The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge Day 29: Who is your closest or most special friend that you've never met and what do they mean to you? How did you cross paths? Talk about how you “met” them: Facebook, Twitter, an online support group, etc. My Virtual Friend I have one good virtual friend whom I haven't met personally yet. We have a mutual friend, then we started texting regularly and he even gave me a Bible as a Christmas present. He was a seminarian then. Now he's a priest. We could talk about anything and everything under the sun. We argue and often agree to disagree. He gives me numerous advice about life and I'd give him my two cents. He asks me for medical advice too and he'll answer my spiritual inquiries. Our communication stopped when he got busy with priesthood and was assigned in a Catholic school. Still, whenever we get the chance to chat, it feels like the old times. It's been more than a decade since we started being friends. I'm glad I share this kind of friendship. A virtual friend whom I know is genuine compared to those I see face to face but are not 100% sincere.Amazing what technology can do, right?Bridging gaps, building friendships.Do you have a virtual friend you feel a genuine connection with?
Lux Thinking Aloud My Biggest, Boldest Move 7:43 PM Sometimes being strong is the only choice you've got left. The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge Day 28: Describe a moment when you made a big, bold move. In any area of life: Career, Love, etc. My Biggest, Boldest Move The biggest, boldest move I did thus far is when I decided to work abroad. It is the boldest move I've made because I did not know what awaits me. I didn't have any problem with my job before that. I was paid well, I had great friends. Yet, I still chose to step out of my comfort zone and leave everything familiar in exchange for uncertainty risking everything I've got. I lost my savings because it took me a couple of months to find a job. When I finally found one, the job was easy but the people around me made it tough. I thought too that I was starting a good new relationship, but working away put an end to all that. When your morals contradict with what you are "forced" to do, something inside you just does not function well. I was constantly sick. There were times I literally couldn't breathe. Everything I've held on escaped from my grip. I started questioning God's purpose for me and even doubted myself. Fast forward to the present, that one bold and big move I did chiseled and polished a lot of rough edges in me. I held on to God like it's my only chance of surviving. Because let's face it...it was. I realized that earning more than double becomes useless when you are not happy and at peace with what you do. Looking back, that big change that happened brought me big realizations, introduced me to beautiful people and spared me from the relationship that I would have settled with. It showed me that sometimes being strong is the only choice you've got left. Like an eaglet, I was pushed at the edge of a high cliff by my Parent Eagle so I can learn the most important skill I need to learn. I learned that I can fly if only I would let go of the things that weigh me down. Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Music Music: A Thousand Years (Christina Perri) 9:18 AM The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge Day 26: Name a song that makes you cry every time you hear it and why The most touching song for me to date is Christina Perri's A Thousand Years. I've always loved listening to Christina Perri's songs via Youtube even before she sang Twilight's Breaking Dawn soundtrack. Her voice is strong and soothing. The waiting season is our pruning season; it is painful, and at the same time the most productive, the most fulfilling, the most significant and life-changing moment in our lives. It is in the waiting that our characters are being built. It is in the waiting that we reveal our true strength, our ingenuity, our limits and the endless possibilities that life offers us. It is in the waiting that we discover the beauty in ourselves and in others. It is in the waiting that we are being tested, torn and pushed around by life, which is also when we learn to fight back, push back and stand still. Also, the first verse of the song is like my song for God. The second verse is like His answer to me. It's a beautiful song. Well, the song does not really make me literally cry every time I hear it but it sure does tug in my heartstrings. "A thousand years of waiting" is just a metaphor but it does feel like a thousand years when you're waiting for something; a breakthrough, an answer to a prayer, a result or a partner. Let's remember that every day, we are one step closer A Thousand Years Christina Perri Heart beats fast Colors and promises How to be brave? How can I love when I'm afraid to fall? But watching you stand alone, All of my doubt suddenly goes away somehow. One step closer I have died everyday waiting for you Darling, don't be afraid I have loved you For a thousand years I'll love you for a thousand more Time stands still Beauty in all she is I will be brave I will not let anything take away What's standing in front of me Every breath Every hour has come to this One step closer I have died everyday waiting for you Darling, don't be afraid I have loved you For a thousand years I'll love you for a thousand more And all along I believed I would find you Time has brought your heart to me I have loved you for a thousand years I'll love you for a thousand more One step closer One step closer I have died everyday waiting for you Darling don't be afraid I have loved you For a thousand years I'll love you for a thousand more And all along I believed I would find you Time has brought your heart to me I have loved you for a thousand years I'll love you for a thousand more Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Books The Widower And I 12:54 PM The Widower And I It´s rare for someone to say something to you just a few words really and actually make you see yourself from a completely different vantage point. -How To Talk To A Widower This post contains affiliate links so we'd get a commission if you purchase through the links at no additional cost to you. The Widower And I This 22nd day of the The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge: "What fictional character in a movie, TV show, or book do you identify with and why?" got me stuck for 4 days! It was so hard to pick one character that I could identify with. Actually, I knew who to write about the first time I saw the 22nd challenge---Doug in How To Talk To A Widower. I just had some hesitations. Doug is a guy and he is a widower! I'm a single woman in my 20s. If you haven't read How To Talk To A Widower yet, please PLEASE do!Especially if you like unpretentious characters like Holden Caulfield in The Catcher In The Rye. Doug was devastated when his wife Hailey died. He tries to live and to stay normal but he couldn't escape the ruthlessness of being lonely at night. He hates it when people feel sorry for him. He knows he'll be okay soon, but that doesn't mean he'll stop feeling the pain. He doesn't hurry up, he lets time heal him, he lets Hailey's memories comfort him, he allows himself to feel his love for her even after she's gone. He trips, he fails, he struggles through the cruelty of life, but he doesn't stop living. He tries to be okay. He knows he'll be okay. He is so human. So real, so gritty...so me. You'll laugh at his boo boos, you'll grieve with him, you'll feel his love, you'll love his imperfections. Let me write here again why I love Doug: I know exactly what it means to act as normal as possible for the world to see. I know how hard it is to hold on to something you used to have but isn't there anymore. I know how awful it is to deal with something that happened so abruptly, so sudden, and how cruel it is that the world would not even give you enough time to let it sink in first before it goes on. I know how crazy it is to get pissed and then feel guilty about getting pissed and then get pissed about feeling guilty. I know how difficult it is to cry yourself to sleep, wake up without feeling the purpose of waking up anymore but getting up anyway and showing the world you're still okay. I just know how messed up Doug felt and I’m glad that he made me realize I’m not alone, even if he’s just a fictional character. Between the Widower and I, we all have a Doug in us.
Lux Thinking Aloud Chillux. Cook, Chat And Chill With Lux 6:35 AM The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge Day 21: How would you pitch a reality show about yourself? To what network? Chillux. Cook, Chat And Chill With Lux One of my fleeting childhood dreams was to have my own TV. show. Ironic because I've always been a timid kid. If I'd pitch a reality show for myself, it will most likely be shown on TLC or Food Network. It will be me welcoming friends at home or going to a friend's house and us cooking, eating and chatting the day away (got the idea from one of my fave local T.V. shows Spoon). No script, no by-the-book measurement of ingredients and just casual, sensible and fun conversation. Sharing interests, opinions and what-have-you's. I think that's what people need to SEE at the end of a very busy stressful day. I seldom cook now because I'd rather spend my time online, read a book or catch up on some zzzz's on my free time. I miss it though. Especially when I get the taste right and I see people enjoy the fruit of my labor. I also love simple, honest and casual conversations shared during a meal. It's where you really build relationships and get to know people. A heartwarming meal shared with people close to your heart. No complications, just good food, good times with good friends...exactly the way I want things to be. I think that's what people need to HAVE at the end of a very busy stressful day. Welcome to "Chillux". Let's cook, chat and chill with Lux! Not bad for a tagline, huh? Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Lux Thinking Aloud 5 Things About Me That Will Surprise You 12:46 AM The The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge Day 19: What is something about you that people would be surprised to learn? A few things about me that (some) people would be surprised to learn: 1. I curse like a sailor. Family and old friends know about this because they already heard me drop some expletives before. It will be a surprise to those I met maybe 3 years ago. I've stopped inserting swear words in my sentences a long time ago. But piss me off real good and I can bring out that foul mouthed bitch in me. 2. I've gone through a LOT of rejections, disappointments, betrayals, accusations and whatnot, (hey, who hasn't?) but I can still manage to smile, keep walking, keep moving forward, keep on living. 3. I am an investor. 4. I can punch really hard despite my small frame and skinny arms. 5. I am very intuitive. I sometimes dream about something before it happens. Sometimes I start thinking about someone out of the blue and later learn that something's going on with this person. Especially if we have a deep connection. Or most of the time I know what's going on but I refuse to say it because I want to hear it first from the person or I want to know how honest that person is. So most of the time if someone tells me something, it's not a confession, it's a confirmation (but of course I act surprised). I know, women. It's our gift and our curse. There are more, but I don't think I would want the world to know. How about you? What's your little secret? Surprise me. Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Life Lessons 20 Things I Would Tell My High School Self 11:48 PM You may feel like it's the end, but it's only the beginning. The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge Day 18: If you could have a conversation with yourself in high school, what would you say? There are things I would like to tell my high school self. Don't we all wish we have a time machine so we can go back and redo or undo a few things? I bet if we could, most of us will go back to high school. That's when majority of our boo boos happened. It's also when we met great people who became our lifelong friends, when we couldn't care less, when we learned some of the best life lessons, and when some wonderful moments happened. 20 Things I Would Tell My High School Self 1. You've got brilliant ideas! Don't be afraid to speak up and share it to the world. I used to always hold back in sharing especially during a class. I know the answers while the rest of my classmates would stare back blankly when a teacher asks a question. Then I'd hate hate hate it when the teacher would reveal the answer because it's exactly what I was thinking. This did not happen just once, but all throughout my student life. 2. Time is important. Discipline begins now. 3. Don't cut your hair too short! It won't be as lustrous as it is now when it grows back. 4. Haters are confused admirers. Enjoy the attention but continue to work on improving yourself. 5. Watch T.V. less. 6. Learn to say "no" as early as now. 7. Careful who you trust. Not everyone who calls you friend are really your friends. 8. ALWAYS wear lotion. 9. Eat more veggies! You'll thank me later. 10. Sleep, sleep, sleep. 11. Don't take life too seriously. You're only young once. 12. Sweet Valley is nice, but read more John Grishams and Sidney Sheldons. You'll never have enough time to read. 13. Now is the best time to start tithing and investing. 14. Go take that risk! 15. Don't use that product. 16. Everything will make sense a little later. 17. Keep on dancing! 18. It will sometimes suck, but just hang in there. 19. You are the only one stopping you. 20. You may feel like it's the end, but it's only the beginning. High school is a beautiful prerequisite to the real world. It exposed us to different kinds of people, allowed us to experience different things, gave us our highs and our lows, gave us a preview of what life is going to be, provided us our first taste of hellos and goodbyes. My high school self had a blast. I know I could have done better, I could have made wiser decisions and I could have been more cautious. If I could go back, I'd tell my high school self all these 20 things. But maybe I would also just let myself be, and watch myself trip, fall, laugh and discover life the way I did. That's where the fun really was. Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Lux Thinking Aloud Inside My Time Capsule 8:26 AM The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge Day 16: If you planted a time capsule right now of your life to be opened in 20 years, what would be in it? Twenty years from now I would like to look back in my life that has been with a smile on my face and warmth in my heart. If I were to plant a time capsule right now, these are the things that I'll include so when I open it 20 years from now, that's exactly what I'll do---smile, maybe shed tears of joy with a heart full of gratefulness. Inside My Time Capsule 1. Pictures of the people in my life, places I've been and things I like. 2. My favorite books. I have a long list and if the space inside my time capsule is limited, then I'll just choose a few that has really impacted my life; inspired me, entertained me, spoke to me, I stayed up late reading, I dreamed about and made me laugh or cry. a.) Cliche as it may sound, I'd put my Bible in. It's a gift from my priest friend (when he was still a seminarian). Every lesson you need in life is there. It is our Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth. b.) Simplify and Live Abundance by Bo Sanchez. It taught me how to live simply (live within or under my means), stay contented but strive for a better life and become rich without robbing your soul. c.) To Kill A Mockingbird by Harper Lee d.) Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban. Among the 7 books, this is my favorite. e.) The Single Woman by Mandy Hale. It taught me to appreciate, affirm, celebrate my single life and be as happy as I should be regardless of my status. f.) Where We Belong by Emily Griffin g.) Master Of The Game by Sidney Sheldon 3. My brother's stuffed bear who we consider as family. Every time I go home I borrow it from him and we sleep with Bearbear on our bed. 4. My journal with all my dreams, struggles and even everyday mundane whereabouts recorded. 5. My laptop (let's assume that it will still work after 20 years). This is like cheating though since most of the things valuable to me are kept in my files here. My "unpublished" blogs, pictures, favorite songs, movies, T.V. shows and important files are stored here. I can only be excited as to what my life will turn out 20 years from now. So I'm cherishing the things that are in the present and even feel the pain if it's there. I am preparing for the worst but definitely expecting only the best. Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Lux Thinking Aloud Really Truly Blissful 6:06 AM A grateful heart is a happy heart. The The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge Day 14: Describe The Last Moment You Felt Really, Truly Blissful It's so easy to make me happy. Chick flicks, good music, a corny joke, a slice of cheesecake, shopping for less, book fairs, visiting a new place. These are just a few simple things that can put a smile on my face. Really Truly Blissful The last time I felt really truly blissful though was when my blog 9,000++ views! For some it's not a big deal, but for me who's baring my soul to my readers (no matter how few I believe they are) and wanting to impart wisdom and encouragement from my great experiences to the boo boos I made, it is huge! It's an accomplishment! I don't know how many people viewed my blog for how many times or if they liked what they saw or even cared to read it. Maybe some just closed the window right after the page loaded. Nevertheless, looking at my stat and seeing 9,000++ views (and counting every minute) gives me bliss. Reading the comments too and knowing that there are people who are also going through the same phase and that they learn from what they read gives me self-fulfillment. It's knowing that I have impacted in my own little way, the lives of others and that I made someone feel less alone is a huge bonus. Some readers would tell me that I did help enlighten them, they learned from what they read or that they're going through something and reading some of my posts is so timely for them. I made them feel better afterwards. That gives me the sense of satisfaction knowing that I'm serving the purpose of my life. I always say that I am not a good writer technically, but I always write from the heart (even when it's bleeding sometimes). So, thank you to everyone who wasted a few minutes of their time visiting my page, those who wasted an extra more to send me an email or drop a comment or two. If you think I've helped you feel better and made a difference in your lives, you don't know how you make this soul sings with gladness every time you drop by her page. From the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU! Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
The Story Of Warren Buffet 10:01 PM Honesty is a very expensive gift, Don't expect it from cheap people. -Warren Buffet The first time I heard Warren Buffet's story, I was amazed. How can someone so wealthy remain so down to earth? More importantly, how can someone so simple became the world's greatest money maker? See for yourself.
Day 13: The Last Person I Texted 4:48 AM The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge Day 13: Describe How You Met The Last Person You Texted And Talk About Your Friendship/Relationship Today's topic will reveal how often I text. Answer: once in a blue moon. I don't like texting so I only text when it's important, if I need to ask or reply to a query, if I need to meet someone and discuss the meeting, etc. (I guess somebody in the past overused and abused the power of texting on me and made me lost my faith in it. Good reason enough). Anyway, to answer today's topic, the last person I texted was my housemate and it's me asking a favor; "Please buy me this for lunch". I know, not that grand. My housemate and I are officemates so my relationship with this person is that we're workmates, we live under the same roof and we share common interests including our love for the same T.V series like How I Met Your Mother and Big Bang Theory. Nothing much to say yet because I just moved in a couple of months ago, but so far, since we both give each other the space and the freedom we both need I'd say we live harmoniously, no fuss whatsoever. Today's topic reminds me that maybe I really do need to try harder in communicating or staying connected with the people in my life. That includes texting more often and not just relying on Facebook as, let's face it, not everyone's got the time to go online everyday. Lesson learned.
Lux Thinking Aloud My Proudest Accomplishment 4:31 AM Helping someone reach their dreams is far better than any material things put together. The Single Woman's 30-Day Blogging Challenge Day 12: Your Proudest Accomplishment My proudest accomplishment so far is that I was able to help my siblings finish college. Do I get an applause for that? See, it's not easy. While some yuppies are enjoying and splurging, I was budgeting my money to the last cent because I've got tuition fees and school projects to pay. I couldn't buy that pair of shoes or bag I so coveted at the mall because I need to send some cash for allowance. During that time I admit it kind of sucked. I'm working my ass off to earn and I couldn't even enjoy the fruit of my labor. Looking back though, that experience taught me to be more generous, more selfless and it even helped me sort out my priorities in life. I've learned early on (as early as 21) the difference between needs and wants. Delaying gratification has the best results. Helping someone reach their dreams is far better than any material things put together. For this I could proudly say I'm not just wealthy, I'm truly rich. Linked here. Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Lux Thinking Aloud I'm A Once In A Lifetime Kind Of Woman 3:18 PM I'm a once-in-a-lifetime kind of woman. "I am not just a one-in-a-million kind of girl. I am rare. I am precious." Claim that, ladies! Don't buy the lies that boys say to get to your pants. You are worth the effort. You are worth the wait. You are valuable. You are worth more than eight cows (read the story's reference here). Don't dumb yourself down so you'll be more approachable. Don't shortchange yourself. Being choosy about the people you let into your life is okay. Protect your inner circle. Don't surround yourself with those who are not contributing to your well-being. When you finally free yourself from people who don't value you, you make more space for those who do. Don't let labels or stereotypes define you. Don't succumb to what society dictates. Be the Proverbs woman. Be like Ruth, who didn't sit around waiting for a man to rescue her situation. Raise your standards, and don't apologize for it. Be a once in a lifetime kind of woman so those who let you go thinking they can do better will realize that you're the one who got away. Never apologize for having high standards. People who really want to be in your life will rise to meet them. -Ziad K. Abdelnour
Lux Thinking Aloud My Name And Its Meaning 5:37 AM What’s in a name? That which we call a rose By any other name would smell as sweet. -Romeo and Juliet The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge Day 10: Google the meaning of your name and talk about how it fits or doesn't fit you I don't have to Google my name to know its meaning. My parents made it clear to me ever since. It means I'm the lucky charm and that everyone were happy around the time I was born since it was when something great happened to the family. I'm going to focus instead on the nickname most people call me. It started during college when some of my closest friends would call me by it (I just tweaked the spelling); Lux. At first I didn't know it means anything (but it's simpler and I like the sound of it) until my priest friend told me. "Lux" is Latin for "light". Ahhh, now we're talking. I've always been optimistic. I always look at the bright side. Sure, there were times when my light has been taken away from me temporarily. Like when everything I believed in turned out to be a big hairy ugly lie. Or when what I hoped for never came to pass. Or when I got so hurt the ugly beast of hatred and grudge sleeping inside me woke up and roared too loud for too long. Oh, it was a struggle. Yet despite the pain, despite the anger, despite the sense of vindication building inside me, I chose to forgive. I was so bitter for a long time, that I admit. Despite the mess though, I chose to forgive, accept what's there and still look at the pros that came with it. I've learned (enLIGHTened!), I've been better, I'm happy again. I also hope, I really try in my own way, to give light to those who need it. It is also quite a struggle since there are a lot of toxic, difficult and also hurt people that I have to deal with. With God's grace, I've learned to let go of petty things and forgive the big offenses. It's not magic. It doesn't happen overnight, but I've decided to live and let live. I believe it's a matter of choosing between believing in luck or waiting for things to happen, and deliberately living in the light, seeing clearly and freeing yourself from darkness. I choose the latter. Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Single Life 5 Things My Future Spouse Needs To Be 5:45 PM We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love. -Dr. Seuss The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge Day 8: 5 Things That Are Most Important To You In A Future Spouse The 5 things my future spouse needs to be? My friend asked me this question too and I guess I now have a better answer than I had then. The list may go on and on and on if I start, but let me try to narrow it down to five here: 5 Things My Future Spouse Needs To Be Lead me in faith He must bring me closer to God. Someone who shares the same faith with me or better yet, someone who's got a more personal relationship with God than I do. Someone who will encourage me and lead me in faith. He doesn't have to be a saint or a martyr, he just have to know God and put his faith into action. Financially literate Women want security, and the best way to make a woman feel secure is to provide for her needs and see to it that her future is in good hands. He doesn't have to be super rich, he just have to be knowledgeable in managing his finances and a good, generous provider. I just don't want to wake up one day and panic because I can't even buy us eggs and milk or won't be able to pay for our children's education (should we decide to have kids). No woman wants to feed a good for nothing lazy ass. Money plays an important role in every relationship. Money may not be everything, but it sure does affect every area of our lives. Wise, not just intelligent I know people who are academically intelligent but are far behind when it comes to dealing with "real life". They are intelligent in many things, they excel in school, but lack wisdom in dealing with what everyday challenges. A real man should not just be a know-it-all in academics, but someone who can survive the life in the jungle, so to speak. Someone who sees beyond the facts, who doesn't just rattle trivia but also possesses wisdom. Loyal A loyal person stays with you no matter what, keeps his promise and stays committed long before the mood he's in when he promised you things is long gone. With a good sense of humor. It would be great to be around someone who doesn't take himself, or life too seriously. Someone who can consistently make you smile and make you feel better when you're down. Someone who can bring you sunshine when it rains. Well, if he's also a good cook and a masseur on top of that then I think I'd be the luckiest woman alive. Gifs from Google images Hey, did you find this post helpful or entertaining? Please go ahead and share. Share buttons on the left and at the bottom of the article. Big thanks! Subscribe to About Life And Love by Email
Lux Thinking Aloud Where You Are Vs. Where You Thought You Would Be 12:23 PM No eye has seen, no ear has heard, and no mind has imagined what God has prepared for those who love him. -1 Corinthians 2:9 I always thought I'd get married at 25. When I was in my 20's I realized 25 is way too young to settle down. I felt like I was not even halfway to where I wanted to be. So I said, I'd postpone it until I'm 29.Guess what?I'm past 29 and I'm still single. What. Happened? To borrow a line from 500 Days of Summer, "What always happens...life." The Tempest Where You Are Vs. Where You Thought You Would Be There are many things that happened that I didn't expect, both good and not so good.I used to be submissive, reserved, and I'd settle for what was there.Now I know how to speak my mind, I stand for what I believe in, and I definitely don't shortchange myself. I thought in my 30s, I'd be staying at home, raising kids, running my own business, definitely NOT single. But I'm here cuddling with my dogs, meeting my friends at short notice, traveling at any time I wish, with no one to consult about my schedules and plans...Hey, it's not bad at all.I can say with all honesty that I am completely, totally happy with where I am right now.I can't imagine myself being a full-time housewife at this moment. Not because I don't want to. Maybe someday. I still love doing what I'm currently doing. Every moment of this singlehood will always be cherished. Whenever I check my bucket list, there are more things I haven't done yet and so many places I am yet to explore. But there are also ticked items that give me self-fulfillment. I know there's more and I want to do more. I know greater things are ahead which are better than I could ever ask for. I have long resigned to the idea that I have good plans for myself, but God has better bigger plans.My Provider has far greater, more beautiful things in store for me. Where I am right now is still far from where I thought I would be, but dang, this is way better than I imagined. This is Day 7 of The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge by Mandy HaleThis post contains affiliate links so I'd get a commission if you purchase through my links at no additional cost to you. This helps me maintain my site. Thanks in advance!
